Posted by Simon Misiewicz on 1st July 2013
Have you heard the phrase “It’s not what you know, but who you know that counts”?
Do you think that other people can help you achieve your goals more than doing everything yourself?
We have relationships with the following sets of people:
- Work colleagues
I am sure that you can think of many more sets of people than I have listed, but the important thing is to recognise that there are lots of people that we deal with everyday. From the above who do you have the best relationships with and who do you have the worst relationships with?
I ask the “Why” question because from the above sets of people, are any of the sets of people different from each other?
There are often gestures of “Professionalism” and “orderly manner”.
Should certain behaviours be shown at all times in the day?
Is it not possible that any set of people can bump into you on the street or on holiday?
What would they think if you displayed a totally different set of behaviours than they are used to? Therefore should you not be yourself and surround yourself with like minded people, so you do not have to “act” as another person to simply “fit in”?
People will make judgements on you as a person by the following (thanks to Dale Carnegie – “How to win friends and influence people”)
- Intelligence (what you say, and how you say it, qualification)
- Wealth (what you wear,what you drive, where you live)
- “Can they be friends with you”
People do not like to mix with people that are far below their standards as they have moved on and away from poor standards in their view.
People equally do not want to mix with people that are far more advanced in the above list as they will feel less significant and even threatened.
At the end of the day we are all humans and we seek love, wealth and happiness . The most important thing is “Love” according to Anthony Robbins.
I firmly believe that this is the case. Think about it, throughout our lives we have been in love and happy, out of love and hurt and lonely.
Love and connection with other human beings, demonstrates that we are social beings and therefore being liked is one of the most important aspects in our lives.
“Friendships is what most human beings want most” – Dale Carnegie
How do we truly build successful relationships with people – (List from How to win friends and influence people)
- Take a genuine interest in people (understand who they are and why they are)
- Remember their name
- Be a good listener (understand even more about them)
- Make people feel important
If you invest time in other people and make them feel connected with, feel valued, feel important and believe they have something important to be said, then they will reciprocate. As Stephen Covey says in his book Seven Habits Of Highly Effective People “Be proactive” make sure that you are the first person to think of other people before yourself to help you build that relationship.
Once you have established rapport then they will invest their time in you.
I wish you all the success in your property investing strategies – keep the focus and keep it positive.
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